Interesting. I guess it is possible for some women. I'm pretty sure I couldn't.
I think that with certain circumstances I could be fine with it. I'd elaborate, but I am so tired that one hand is typing faster than the other, and my fingers are writing random words I do not mean to write, so this is taking me a really long time.
Maybe I shall continue sometime after I get sleep.
Altie- Like I said, I can't speak for all women, but I personally could not be married to more than one man.
I do think men can love, and their attraction isn't based solely on lust. (But if it is only lust, then they definitely can have mirror relationships with more than one woman.)
In answering Sara (again), I don't think that I would necessarily WANT to share my husband. But, I think that if that were the situation, I could understand that him loving another woman doesn't take away from his love for me. I also think that it can have its perks: 1-men can get really difficult at times.. at least I wouldn't be alone in dealing with it. 2-at said difficult times, you have someone to commiserate with. 3-you have someone you can share with who really knows exactly what you are going through. And I could go on... I think it could be really cool to be friends with my husband's other wives.
for those who wonder what judaism says about this, there's an article on chabad.org by tzvi freeman about why the torah permits polygamy. i'd include a link, but i'm on my phone. Someone mentioned that we should try to start a discussion on that blog. i left a comment there a while ago and no one responded. it seems that it's kind of dead. but if you want to give it a try, please do. i think it would be a very interesting discussion.
re: whether one can love multiple MOTOGs in societies where polygamy is practiced they have very different ideas of how spouses ought to love each other. so your ability to love multiple spouses tells us how good of an idea polygamy would be for our society, but it doesn't tell us how good it is/was for other societies. apparently, modern ideas about love are seeping into muslim society, so their ideas about polygamy are changing too.
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ReplyDeletewow!i think we should all try to find some more muslim blogs and read them. its fascinating to look at another world the way other ppl look at ours.
ReplyDeleteOh...well that was interesting blog.
ReplyDeleteto all: indeed
ReplyDeleteOn the subject of polygamy...
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's such a big deal. I think it can actually be a great idea in many ways..
I think it's quite a big deal and couldn't be in such a relationship.
ReplyDeleteI dare someone to leave a comment on her blog, incite some debate, etc. That would make for a good read.
I think it is possible for men to love more than one woman.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, I do not think it is possible for a woman to love two men equally.
Funny, I was just about to suggest otherwise (in that a woman COULD love more than one man).
ReplyDeleteYou wouldn't mind sharing your husband with another woman?
Interesting. I guess it is possible for some women. I'm pretty sure I couldn't.
ReplyDeleteI think that with certain circumstances I could be fine with it. I'd elaborate, but I am so tired that one hand is typing faster than the other, and my fingers are writing random words I do not mean to write, so this is taking me a really long time.
Maybe I shall continue sometime after I get sleep.
women have the ability to love more than one. equally? maybe not. men have the ability to lust after more than one. love? maybe not so much.
ReplyDeleteAltie- Like I said, I can't speak for all women, but I personally could not be married to more than one man.
ReplyDeleteI do think men can love, and their attraction isn't based solely on lust. (But if it is only lust, then they definitely can have mirror relationships with more than one woman.)
In answering Sara (again), I don't think that I would necessarily WANT to share my husband. But, I think that if that were the situation, I could understand that him loving another woman doesn't take away from his love for me. I also think that it can have its perks: 1-men can get really difficult at times.. at least I wouldn't be alone in dealing with it. 2-at said difficult times, you have someone to commiserate with. 3-you have someone you can share with who really knows exactly what you are going through. And I could go on... I think it could be really cool to be friends with my husband's other wives.
for those who wonder what judaism says about this, there's an article on chabad.org by tzvi freeman about why the torah permits polygamy. i'd include a link, but i'm on my phone. Someone mentioned that we should try to start a discussion on that blog. i left a comment there a while ago and no one responded. it seems that it's kind of dead. but if you want to give it a try, please do. i think it would be a very interesting discussion.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/770990/jewish/Why-does-Torah-law-allow-polygamy.htm
ReplyDeleteWe can just talk to each other and use her blog as a forum... she doesn't have to respond.
re: whether one can love multiple MOTOGs in societies where polygamy is practiced they have very different ideas of how spouses ought to love each other. so your ability to love multiple spouses tells us how good of an idea polygamy would be for our society, but it doesn't tell us how good it is/was for other societies. apparently, modern ideas about love are seeping into muslim society, so their ideas about polygamy are changing too.
ReplyDeleteTrue. if a whole discussion plunks itself on her blog, it might rouse her from her blogcation.
ReplyDeleteI think poligomy would destroy a marriage.
ReplyDeleteAgav, Tzvi Freeman has 343 articles on chabad.org.
ReplyDeletehe churns them out regularly.
ReplyDeleteon the subject of muslims, lols much?
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dU0e6nEA9mI